Sharing Our Burdens
“Come to me, all you that are who labor and are burdened and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
One very important way to befriend our sorrow is to take it out of its isolation, and share it with someone who can receive it. So much of our pain remains hidden, even from our closest friends. When we feel lonely, do we go to someone we trust and say: “I am lonely. I need your support and company.” When we feel anxious, sexually needy, angry, or bitter, do we dare to ask a friend to be with us and receive our pain?
Too often we think or say: “I don’t want to bother my friends with my problems. They have enough problems themselves.” But the truth is that we honor our friends by entrusting our struggles to them. Don’t we ourselves say to our friends who have hidden their feelings of fear and shame from us: “Why didn’t ou tell me, why did you keep it secret so long?” Obviously not everyone can receive our hidden pains. But I believe that if we truly desire to grow in spiritual maturity, God will send us the friends we need.
Give me the strength, dear God, to share my pain with others and be willing to share theirs.